Changing yourself to improve and to become closer to the you that you envision, is not the easiest task. I love how when you go to motivational talks, everything that’s said there is valid and true and hypes you up to be better and to do better, but then a few days later you are back to how you were before you heard the talk.

This has happened to me so many times, I’ve noticed that a one day talk won’t change your life, but guess what? It will plant a seed, it will give you ideas and it definately makes a shift. The only way the seeds that are planted in these seminars will grow is if you water them, by committing to them every day for long enough to actually change your habits.

When you are in a very dark hole though it’s not the easiest thing, what worked for me is one thing at a time and lots of patience and understanding. When I messed up I tried not to beat myself up, I just said, “ok lets do better from today.” Its been years of changing my self talk, of affirming new beliefs and actually teaching myself how to love myself and how to believe in myself. How to care of me first before I can care for others properly and whole heartedly.

I teach my daughter every time the opportunity arises, to water/feed/pay attention to the charachteristics of herslf that she most wants to be. I also teach her to correct herself when she says negative things like im stupid. I remind her that if she tells herself that enough, she will eventually believe that she is and that its very difficult to undo once its done. I do my best to reinforce my belief in her, and show her that she can do difficult things even when they seem impossible. I want my daughter to grow up with the ability to see that her world is not set in stone and she can choose to change direction whenever she is unhappy with the choice that she has made. I also teach her to stick with things that take long to show results because when you reap the rewards the wait is always worth it. I choose to be that voice that plants positive seeds in her mind while she is young. The positive voice that reminds her of who she is and how powerful she can be if she believes in herself and her abilities. The voice that I didn’t have growing up, the voice that I needed. The one I had to find the hard way, alone and after the damage was already done.

The thing is, because I see how important being a voice that young people need actually is. I do my best whenever given the opportunity to sit with them and talk to them. I personally think that if they know there is more to life than their circumstances and they can see a person overcome it through hard work and determination then its my duty to share it with them. This is my duty, as a woman, as a mother, as a human being, to be who I needed growing up. To speak up when it’s required of me and to make time to sit with young people and listen to what they have to say and guide them to the direction of their light.

My wish for you is that you find that voice within yourself and use it to make changes in yourself. Then once you have helped yourself make those changes, teach others how to do the same. Not because of any other reason but it is the right thing to do.

My wish for you is that you find your light and then spread it everywhere you go, that you find the love inside yourself and let it touch every soul you meet and that you take the questions that life has asked you and spread the answers to every corner of the world once you find them.

My wish for you is that you blossom into the flower that you were created to be and that you spread your seeds of love and peace through the wind to every corner of the world.

Love and light

Tammy