Your Chaos, my calm

It’s not my responsibility to find order in your chaos.

This is an interesting statement, discussed by a friend of mine a few days ago. For two people that are constantly trying to keep things in order it is vital that we learn to let go, even as parents to teenagers, to trying to keep the chaos of others in order.

Not everyone works in straight lines. Its something I have to continuously remind myself of, and what appears to be chaotic to me may not be to the next person. I have to learn that it’s my responsibility to take care of what I perceive to be chaotic in my life and get that straight, but everyone else has to arrange their lives the way that works for them. If they choose chaos then I have to learn to not get involved, as long as it doesn’t directly affect me, it’s not my place to arrange and clean up.

For me structure is important, I don’t work well without some sort of structure, I have to have a plan, or create a way towards a plan… but throwing things all over the show and just hoping it works does not gel well with me. If we going camping, I’m prepared for everything, if I’m travelling I’ve packed properly, If I’m going out, I have everything that will make me comfortable with me.. and it’s not much, it’s just more than what most would do. As a result I’m the person that will always have that thing you need in my handbag. Because I know if I need it, I’d rather not be asking around.

The difficult part of having this need for order is minding my own order and not imposing myself on everyone else. People will not learn to be their best version if someone else is keeping their lives together, they have to know what to do to hold their own lives together and I have to stop babying grown humans. The difficult part of having this need for order is minding my own order and not imposing myself on everyone else. People will not learn to be their best version if someone else is keeping their lives together, they have to know what to do to hold their own lives together and I have to stop babying grown humans.

This is my task at the moment, to focus on my on order and not everyone else’s chaos. This is my task at the moment, to focus on my on order and not everyone else’s chaos.

My wish for you is that you focus on keeping your own calm and not let the chaos of everyone else around you drive you insane.

Follow your peace, protect your peace, live your peace.

Love and light

Tammy

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