I had a conversation with an old friend of mine who has not had an easy life due to the choices he had made. But life keeps giving him the greatest opportunities to re invent himself and to make the positive changes he needs in his life. If only he could grab a hold of one of those opportunities and use it to stabalise himself, or to create a positive life for himself. Look, I realise its up to him to see how blessed he actually is and to make the necessary changes he needs to create happiness and abundance in his life. I also realise that pain can sometimes blind us to what we actually have and make us dwell in what we feel inside.

It made me take a moment to think about all the opportunities I have let slide past me in the name of fear, or not believing in myself. I realise that I have to be the change I wish to see in my friend, not only for my own benefit but for those around me. I cannot control what other people do, but I do control what I do and if they have an example, someone to show them that there is a way out and that life does not have to be a pit of misery no matter what you have been faced with. I will never dial down anyones pain, pain is real and felt in the depths of a persons being, they are entitled to feel what they feel. My wish for those that have been broken, hurt and violated is to show them that they are not doomed to a life of misery and that they CAN overcome the darkness that takes over, it is not forever and they really are able to move past the darkness and find their light once again. I know there are people that will say “easier said than done,” and I agree it really is easier to say all these things than to actually get them done. Which is why I choose to focus on what I can change, and thats myself. If they see that I can heal my own pain and not be dark anymore then maybe, just maybe, I can motivate someone to do the same, or at least try and look for a silver lining to the cloud they may find themselves in.

My daughter looks to me for everything, and I have to show her that there is always light even in the darkest moment, if she just looks within herself and tries to find it. No matter how difficult it may be. I know that I am not perfect, I know that there are people that are better equipped to be the change I wish to see in the world, but the reality of the matter is that we all have to play our part, and if I can be brave and find my light then hopefully you will want to be brave and find yours too. After all, we cannot allow darkness to win, no matter how hard it tries , light must always prevail.

Live your life full of light and be blessed.

Tammy